Season 2, Episode 2: John - Finding Out At Age 10

Show Notes

Topics We Discussed

  • Pregnancy in 1960s, birthmother was placed in a home for unwed mothers by her parents
  • His birthmother requested that the agency give her details to John when he turned 18 (they did not honour this)
  • John doesn’t know where he was for the first nine months of his life
  • Finding out accidentally that he was adopted, around age 10; adoptive mother lying to him at age 7 that he was not adopted when he asked
  • Fantasizing about who his birthparents might be
  • Loss of all trust with his adoptive parents, felt he couldn’t believe anything they told him
  • Adoptive father became an alcoholic and left the family
  • Before he passed away, John’s adoptive father shared some extremely hurtful things with John about his adoption and his adoptive mother
  • Relationships with his adoptive mother continues to fragment and be distant
  • Searching for his birthmother, 
  • Birthmother finding John via Prodigy (old internet service provider)
  • Receiving letters of welcome from his maternal extended family
  • Building a relationship with his birthmother
  • Navigating reunion (she's got secondary infertility); adding John on to her life insurance was really hard for him to accept
  • Trust issues, insecurities, difficulty finding a therapist
  • Possibly searching with his adoptive sister for her bio family
  • Giveaway! Listen to the podcast episode to find out how to enter to win!
  • Secret Facebook Group for Adoptees On - access via

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