Season 2, Episode 3: Holly - Reunion in Time Out

An interview with Holly, an adoptee who is currently taking a little time off from reunion with her birthmother. We delve into some very tender topics - gaslighting, boundaries and she even got me to open up about some of my own reunion difficulties.

Show Notes

Topics We Discussed

  • Taking a break from reunion 
  • Gaslighting 
  • How to prepare for reunion - is it even possible?
  • Diane Wheaton’s episode
  • Choosing a therapist with adoptee experience
  • In reunion and accessing therapy right away
  • Adoptees and boundary issues
  • Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No, to Take Control of Your Life by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend
  • Boundaries Where You End And I Begin: How To Recognize And Set Healthy Boundaries by Anne Katherine
  • Thin boundaries, trying to fit in and and be a chameleon
  • Trying the place to find where we truly belong
  • Landric’s episode
  • Boundaries in romantic relationships or work relationships - do we get enmeshed or shut down
  • Oversharing!
  • Being an introvert, an INFJ  (Myers Briggs personality types)
  • Reunion Rules/Guidelines: Spouse should be first priority in relationship order, right-sizing relationships with others involved
  • Having trouble naming and articulating emotions
  • Mindfulness to check in with how our body is feeling
  • Meditation apps and 
  • Chronic pain and sleep issues
  • Secret Facebook Group for Adoptees On - access via 
  • Meet up in April 21-22, 2017;

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