Haley talks about how to find an adoption-competent therapist. She gives you five questions to ask and multiple tips for finding that perfect fit.
- Types of mental health professionals
- Psychiatrist is a medical doctor with training in psychology, they can diagnose and prescribe medication
- A psychologist is someone who usually has a doctoral level degree, in some provinces they may only be required to have a masters level degree.
- A therapist would most often have a masters level degree likely either in social work, marriage and family therapy, or similar.
- The terms psychiatrist, psychologist and therapist are the ones that are most often protected, and can only be used by people who are a part of their respective professional associations.
- Sometimes counsellor is a protected term as well, but often not. Someone can train to be a coach or life coach on a weekend seminar. So MAKE certain that the person you’re trying out is actually trained and has experience
- Where to look?
- You can ask around to friends and family, they may have someone that has really helped them. I think referrals are helpful, and all of these providers will keep your info in strict confidence, that’s standard of course.
- www.psychologytoday.com has this great service called Find a Therapist where you can go in, put in your city or postal code, zip code… and narrow down based on insurance coverage, issues that they specialize in; And even if you are in a really tiny town - there are therapists that do video work/ You can actually meet with them via Skype or a secure video alternative for your sessions. Don’t let that hold you back.
- Five Questions to ask
- Your training and experience / license information, what styles of treatment do you specialize in?
- Have you worked with adult adoptees before or any other member of the triad? Have you heard of the primal wound or the phrase “out of the fog”?
- Are there any issues that you see as common to adoptees, and how would you work with someone on that?
- Do you believe that adoption can be considered a traumatic event for the mother and child? Do you have training in helping someone with PTSD or other traumas?
- Do you believe a family created by adoption is the same as one where all members are biologically related. Explain why or why not. This last question is from Lesli Johnson, a therapist I’ve had on the healing series
- NO matter what, you still need someone who’s a good fit for your personality. Some of us need someone to push us a bit out of a stuck spot, hold up a mirror even when it’s an ugly thing to look at… some of us need a gentle hand holder… and many therapists can do a combination of all of those things. But you need someone who won’t rub you the wrong way. When you’re with them, do you feel listened to and heard.
- http://www.adopteeson.com/healing for other healing series episodes.