Topics We Discussed
- Born in 1941, adopted privately
- An older brother who was biological
- Coming 'out of the fog' at age 50
- Receiving his original birth certificate (for medical issues)
- Finding his birth parents, both were already deceased
- Relationship with half brothers
- Adoptee issues that he struggles with
- Dissasociating from his pain, learning how to connect his body back with his feelings
- A lifetime of skin peeling issues, resolved once he faced his adoptee issues
- The Primal Wound (Nancy Verrier), Body Keeps Score by Bessel van der Kock
- Finding a therapist who understands adoptee issues; 'training' a therapist who doesn't
- Paul Sunderland Lecture "Adoption & Addiction, Remembered Not Recalled"
- The difficulty explaining adoptee issues to those who aren't adopted
- What can trigger coming 'out of the fog': pregnancy, mid-life crisis
- Healing and connecting feelings to his body, therapy and writing
- Power of writing and sharing/speaking our stories out loud
- Importance of adoptee/adoption support groups
- Adoption at the Movies
- Connect with other adoptees!
- Healing Developmental Trauma: How Early Trauma Affects Self-Regulation, Self-Image, and the Capacity for Relationship by Laurence Heller, PhD & Aline LaPierre PsyD
Davis Peticolas has recorded his excellent essay, Am I Blood or Am I Water? and you can download the mp3 file here.