12 [S1 E12] Davis

An interview with Davis Peticolas who shares his story about coming out of the adoption fog when he was fifty years old. Davis outlines some of his deeply personal struggles that can be traced back to adoption trauma as the root cause.

Show Notes

Topics We Discussed

  • Born in 1941, adopted privately

  • An older brother who was biological

  • Coming 'out of the fog' at age 50

  • Receiving his original birth certificate (for medical issues)

  • Finding his birth parents, both were already deceased

  • Relationship with half brothers

  • Adoptee issues that he struggles with

  • Dissasociating from his pain, learning how to connect his body back with his feelings

  • A lifetime of skin peeling issues, resolved once he faced his adoptee issues

  • The Primal Wound (Nancy Verrier), Body Keeps Score by Bessel van der Kock

  • Finding a therapist who understands adoptee issues; 'training' a therapist who doesn't

  • Paul Sunderland Lecture "Adoption & Addiction, Remembered Not Recalled"

  • The difficulty explaining adoptee issues to those who aren't adopted

  • What can trigger coming 'out of the fog': pregnancy, mid-life crisis

  • Healing and connecting feelings to his body, therapy and writing

  • Power of writing and sharing/speaking our stories out loud

  • Importance of adoptee/adoption support groups

Recommended Resources

  • Adoption at the Movies

  • Connect with other adoptees!

  • Healing Developmental Trauma: How Early Trauma Affects Self-Regulation, Self-Image, and the Capacity for Relationship by Laurence Heller, PhD & Aline LaPierre PsyD

Free Download

Davis Peticolas has recorded his excellent essay, Am I Blood or Am I Water? and you can download the mp3 file here

The full text of this essay can be found on the Adult Adoptee Support blog here.