It’s an honour to bring you this mother/daughter duo, Fleurette and Amy, for an in-depth view of a long-term reunion. We talk about the unusual circumstances surrounding Amy’s adoption, the disappointment they both felt after their first official in-person meeting, how bringing grandkids into the equation shifted their relationship, and how many years it took them before they felt their reunion relationship was “normal”. Spoiler alert - it was a loooong time.
Topics We Discussed
- A closed adoption situation that turned out to be an in-family adoption by mistake (thanks SK gov’t!)
- We hear their story from both Amy’s (daughter) and Fleuerette’s (mother) perspective
- Fleurette decided, “well I’m the adult here” and summoned up the courage for the first phone call
- Their first official in-person weekend together was difficult for both of them. It’s not like the movies! “It was a terrible weekend”
- “I met an adult.” There wasn’t the connection and immediate feeling of love
- “This is a stranger.” So many unmet expectations.
- They share some of the hard conversations they’ve had while navigating reunion
- Fleurette talks about some of the stigma of being a birthmother - even today
- How their relationship shifted when Amy had her children
- We talk about the real stuff… how they considered walking away, giving up… what made them stick it out.
- “Nothing good comes without working for it” - Fleurette
- Practically speaking - how do they keep in touch during a long distance relationship
- What’s been great about reunion
- Adoptees On Podcast (😳😂)
- Edmonton, Alberta - Adoptee Support Group
- Support for First Parents: www.originscanada.org, www.cubirthparents.org
- An Affair with My Mother by Caitriona Palmer
Connect With Us
- Amy Crossland: Instagram | Facebook | amynicrn [at] gmail [dot] com
- Fleurette Gallais: Facebook | ffg.gallais [at] gmail [dot] com
- Haley Radke: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook
- Adoptees On: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook