263 Stefany Valentine: When We Become Ours

Today’s episode is a celebration for When We Become Ours: A YA Adoptee Anthology which releases on October 24, 2023. The first of its kind, edited by Shannon Gibney and Nicole Chung, with fifteen adoptee authors is cause for celebration. We’re going to hear from an emerging author, Stefany Valentine, who shares her story of being adopted at age twelve, while her biological father had a terminal illness. She is the first step-parent adoptee we’ve had on the show. We talk about the lack of consent to her adoption, the cultural losses Stefany suffered, and how it wasn’t until her mid-twenties that she realized her biological mother had been removed from her birth certificate. Next we’re going to hear from five more contributing authors who share about their stories in the collection and what it’s meant for them to be a part of this project.

Show Notes


  • When We Become Ours: A YA Adoptee Anthology Edited by Shannon Gibney and Nicole Chung (authors included in the collection: Shannon Gibney, Nicole Chung, Mariama J. Lockington, Meredith Ireland, Mark Oshiro, Stefany Valentine, Eric Smith, Kelley Baker, MeMe Collier, Susan Harness, Lisa Nopachai, Matthew Salesses, Sun Yung Shin, Lisa Wool-Rim Sjöblom, Jenny Heijun Wills)
  • Listen to their past Adoptees On episodes:
    • Shannon Gibney (179, 236)
    • Nicole Chung (84, 258)
    • Mariama J. Lockington (116)
    • Susan Devan Harness (192)
    • Matthew Salesses (152)
    • Lisa Wool-Rim Sjöblom (130)
    • Jenny Heijun Wills (133, 218)
  • TikTokkers mentioned: adoptee_thoughts, first.birth.mom, and eunaeemily

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